Reading body language can be a powerful tool in understanding people better, but it's also a complex skill that requires practice and nuance. Here are some key insights and tips from Redditors on how to read body language in conversations:
Body Language is Universal but Nuanced: While there are some universal signs, body language can vary by individual and context. "Most people naturally read the body language of other people. But don't consciously take it too far. You aren't going to be able to read their mind through body language and thinking you can is a recipe for disaster."
Feet and Legs: These are often the most honest parts of the body because they are less controlled. "The feet are the furthest part of our body from our face(head). We are taught at a young age to put on all sorts of poker faces... The feet are far away from our usual lying zone... So they usually support what we are actually feeling."
Signal Clusters: Look for multiple body language signs together to confirm your interpretation. "A big thing in reading people, and having authenticity in that read. Is signal clusters. Seeing several small gestures in rapid succession, or a couple big ones all at once."
Eye Contact: This is a primary indicator of interest and engagement. "Eye contact"
Body Orientation: If someone is leaning towards you, it often indicates interest. If they are leaning away or crossing their arms, they might be feeling closed off or uncomfortable. "Are they leaning forward or turning their body away from you? Are they open or placing arms/objects between?"
Facial Expressions: Pay attention to subtle cues like eyebrow flashes or changes in pupil size. "Eyebrow flash when he sees you is a micro expression of attraction and open body language."
Mirroring: If someone mirrors your body language, it can indicate a connection. "Mirroring your actions while you're talking to him"
Start Simple: Focus on one or two signs initially and gradually add more. "Practice doing just one thing to start with, then if and when you see it making a difference it will start being something you do unconsciously."
Use Body Language in Communication: Combine body language with verbal communication for a more complete understanding. "70% of communication is done through body language... If you managed that, hats off to you."
Be Aware of Cultural Differences: Body language can vary by culture, so be mindful of these differences. "I work in a kitchen with a dozen or so people who don't speak English... If it wasn't for body language and expressions we would not be able to communicate well at all."
These subreddits can provide further insights and opportunities to practice your body language reading skills.